My Husband is NOT being nice to me?

Wow, just....wow. I'm sort of speechless that someone could be so callous. Were the two of you already fighting before you grandfather died and had the funeral? I guess I am asking if some of this is left over anger from a prior fight or did it just come from out of nowhere? That would make a slight difference, I guess, but really...when someone you love like your grandfather, all fights should be put on hold and you should be allowed to grieve and get solace from your loved ones, including your husband. He is acting like a righteous jackass and an extremely selfish infant. This is the mark of the Narcissist, as he can't be the center of attention he will cause some uproar so that attention IS paid to him. I'm sorry but try to look at this objectively and see if you see a pattern of him always having to be right or in control or the center of attention. These are all red flags that you are married to a man who has no empathy and no ability to feel compassion. People don't really exist for him except to notice him and give him the attention he feels he deserves. If he does this repeatedly and you do see a pattern, I would seriously consider separation to clear your head and decide if this is a marriage with a rosy future. Be strong!